What will it cost?

There is a shift happening.
For many of us, the last 2-3 years has been the pressure to move the plates.
A window is open.

In the words of your favourite super hero....will it be for good or for evil? Or "What will it cost?"

The brilliant thing about change...ie: "the shift" is that it can happen quickly. You choose the timing and you choose how it will happen. This is scary and very freeing at the same time.

You might ask..."so how do I get me some of this shifting?" Like a shot in the heiny, it smarts and then starts to take effect. You might have some intestinal issues along the way, though really you are starting to feel better and have more energy.

Try something for me.
Take out a journal, scrap piece of paper, you kids lined ruler paper and write down 4 things you want to change. Try not to take too long, a minute or so for all 4. Be clear and honest.
an example might be:
1. eat better
2. lose weight
3. be nicer to my husband
4. work on growing my business

Simple and clear, right?!
okay, a little more for you.
take another piece of paper and write on the top of it what you want to change..."1. eat better"
then list 10. reasons to change it.......what it will cost you if you don't.

I know, this is hard...this is the shot in the heiny...smarts part. Again, be clear and honest.
for example:
Eat Better
1. my kids will not be as healthy in body and brain because they want to eat what I do
2. the continued sadness my husband feels for not eating better would lead to more disconnection
3. I will get fatter
....you get the picture

okay, flip the page over and list 10. things you will GAIN changing this behavior. The simple pleasures, the amazing outrageous awesome positive things that will come your way when you change.

a little help
1. look better
2. feel better-future health
3. a happy husband-he loves to cook and loves to have people love his food
starting to feel good about this.

Do this for your remaining 3 things you want to change.
Profound information isn't it? That clarity smarts.

Having this information is a great start...now what? The roller coaster of feeling crappy about the cost and then seeing the possibility of hope for change. Up down up down up down up.

Some may have babysat for a niece or nephew, have their own children.....played with a child that is freaking out about a toy or losing their mind over wanting to do something and your job is to distract that child and redirect them to another toy or game. Make a funny noise, jump up and down, start playing with something else and have it be really fun.
That's what has to happen with our "change brain".

Come up with 4-5 things that you can do to totally shift your changes-interrupt the crappy behavior. These are things you will do on a regular basis until the change becomes habit.
example: working out in the early am.
For me if i get out of bed and quickly put on  my workout clothes I cannot skip working out. It is my mindset of you got dressed, get in the car and go.
You could take that one step further and look at what it will "cost" you to not go.

For someone it might be thinking a negative thought about oneself and the moment that happens, they get up and go "whooop whoop" and smile. Yes, some might think you have adult onset tourettes or are having a seizure, though like a child you are changing that behavior.

I realize this is a lot and pretty heavy too. it's BABY STEPS people.
It's time to see that window is open and possibility is coming in like rays of sunshine.

Go at it.
Love you,
sarah

When you fall down.....get up -Buddha

we do this over and over.
it is our nature and in our DNA.
sometimes it feels like it short-circuits and leaves us out in the pouring rain with no shelter.

we have indomitable spirits.
it is often our hearts that get the beating
sometimes we lose our way and need others to help us back on the path.

we are human
it is our duty to feel the pain as well the glory
sometimes it hurts.

have courage. live out loud.

This is an amazing piece from researcher Brene Brown. She talks about compassion and vulnerability.
She speaks of courage and connection.
In this time of ............ let's have courage. Let's love like we never have before.




courage-to tell the story with your whole heart.

love you

Ease and Grace

Have a little something for you.
Each night, before your head hits the pillow, quickly write down 5 things that felt good or went right that day.

A few of mine are:
Gladys came into the office and gave me a kiss
Wedding ring is FOUND!
Gas was 3.49 a gallon
I had a meeting today-listened and cast the vision, it was effortless

It's a terrible picture of a painting in my Living Room, I painted in Grad School. It's of my mom and dad. I love this painting. It makes me smile every time I see it. My father died in 1995 and not until this moment did it connect that because of school, I took the time to work through it. Most of time when we have loss-whether it be a job, a parent, a marriage...anything big or small we do not take the time to move through it. We have been so conditioned to take our 4 days of to grieve and move on. Smush it down. Move on.....

This is unfortunate as we then get on the cycle of doing the same thing and getting the same results. The moment we feel dis-ease or dis-comfort we head out and create something new to keep us busy.
It could seem like this is ramblings for a society that is not going to change it Family Leave time and we cannot lose our status or income level...much less not feed our kids.

Many of us have experienced life changing loss in the last 2-3 years. Loss of a job, status, money, house, illness, etc. Nobody is really ready for this. I love our former Arbonne President, Rita Davenport says "prepare for impact". This is to say, live your life not in fear of what will come, however, be prepared by doing the work necessary to be able to mitigate the loss with ease and grace.

We are all on the edge of our seats, waiting......waiting to see what is going to happen. Seems a little selfish and complicit. Search out, find a system to help you with the tools to get to that state of ease and grace.

Love you best